I am 81 years old. I have decided to list some things I have learned in my years on Earth, including this, The 5 Things I Learned After Marriage.
This “learning” business is being done in installments. This installment is what I learned after I was married.
Here we go.
1. Arguments, in general: Some are serious and some are petty. A few years, and maybe a few weeks, after the petty arguments, you will probably chuckle about it. Serious arguments are something else. You should try to work them out. If divorce is on your mind after the first one or two serious arguments, maybe you shouldn’t have married in the first place.
2. Arguments, wins and losses: When you win, don’t gloat. When you lose, shrug your shoulders and forget about it.
3. Money: This can be a problem for many married couples. If you are young, before you married you should have understood that money would be tight. If you are older, things happen and you may need to fight. And I don’t mean fight each other. I mean fight the world together.
4. Together: When I married Carolyn, we had 100 bucks between us and the first month’s rent was 50 bucks. I was going to school and our family income was not exactly what you would call high. But, by the time we were in our fifties, we could look at each other and say, “Damn. Look at where we started and look at where we are now.”
5. Other stuff: I could go on and on but the four things above kept my marriage going for over 53 years, until Carolyn died.
Harrison & Carolyn
I learned quite a bit from living with a woman for so long. Did you?
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